Great business mentors can have an enormous impact on early-stage startups. Their connections can open doors 
that would otherwise be closed and their experiences can save entrepreneurs from suffering from the same startup mistakes they’ve already made.
But finding the best mentor for your business isn’t as simple as picking a name from a hat. You’ll need to be able to recognize what makes a great mentor, know how to approach one and then how to maximize the relationship. I have seen all types of mentor relationships, successful and some not.
Here are three steps for finding the most experienced mentor to help bring your startup idea to the next level:
1. Recognize what makes a great mentor.
At TechStars, we’ve found that the best mentors are those who ask a lot of tough questions and challenge you to exceed your goals. In doing so, they should share their own experiences and help you uncover new opportunities.
But the best mentors shouldn’t tell you exactly what to do. They understand their role as an advisor and that it’s your company to run, not theirs. Those who tell entrepreneurs what to do, and become upset when their instructions aren’t followed, often cause more damage than good.
2. Find a good fit.
A common mistake we’ve seen is going straight at the busiest, most well-known, most visible mentors. While this may occasionally work, it’s often more productive to analyze your own close network and look locally for mentors whom you respect with relevant experience.
Think about approaching the founders and key executives of companies in your space who you admire. Those people are usually more likely to invest time in your business than those with crushing demand from strangers.
To make that first connection, you might try sending a short email explaining what your startup is doing and why you are reaching out. Avoid “form” emails and always make it relevant and easy for the prospective mentor to help. Take a few minutes to read the person’s blog or Twitter account and learn about his or her background so you can personalize your note. Most of the cold emails I receive from entrepreneurs start off by requesting a meeting over coffee. While this might seem like a good first request, it isn’t always.
3. Maximize the mentor relationship.
Once you’ve established a connection, and there is interest from both sides, it’s important to build a relationship over time. One way to do this is to check in regularly by email. Mentors should love to see your progress and take pride in knowing that their input has been helpful. Send a monthly email that reminds them of your past conversations and updates them on your progress.
Ask one new question in these emails to ensure the conversation continues. It’s important to keep these check-in 
emails short and to the point and not ask for too much at a time. For example, requesting a two-hour phone call once a week is probably going to be an unrealistic demand. Getting together at the mentor’s office for 30 minutes once a quarter can be an easier request to be fulfilled once you’ve established a real relationship.
While mentors shouldn’t ask for financial compensation, if they are consistently spending a considerable amount of time helping you get going, you might consider granting them a small amount of equity in your company to offer a long-term incentive.
Great founders intuitively understand the importance and role of mentors. They recognize that startups are difficult, but realize that a great team paired with the presence of experienced and engaged mentors can make an enormous difference and is often a strong indicator of future success.
